What is a Mom Bod anyway?
It seems the most common notion of what it is reflects more acceptance for where our body ended up after creating and giving birth to little humans. But it also represents a stand still…a surrender. A surrender to the “new” you as a Mama and now, with the focus shifting to the little human infront of you, you not only take the back burner but you are at the bottom of your list of priorities.
You forget yourself when you’re looking after the little one. When baby laughs, takes his 1st steps and says his 1st word…you’re engrossed in the moment in it’s pure joy as it should be. The 1st big event approaches. Maybe it’s baby’s baptism or 1st birthday and you have to shop for something to wear because none of your clothes fit anymore or they’re a little too tight to be comfortable in and, quite frankly, not flattering the least bit. And here it is…the dreaded shopping experience where you hate trying on anything and end up buying something you only kinda sorta like but it fits and “suits” your new “Mom Bod”. That feeling. That gut wrenching feeling of ugliness and disappointment.
But, hey, there’s a whole movement of loving your body just the way it is, right?! No matter what size or shape. And especially since we’ve created little miracles, right?! So, how come we feel like crap deep in our core? Yes, I said it. CRAP. It’s not the most common subject because it’s often seen as vain or that your priorities are not in the right place to be “obsessing” over this. How we SHOULD accept ourselves now the way we are because we’ve “EARNED” it. We’ve “EARNED” it!
Earned what exactly? That’s what I want to ask. Earned a body that, now, makes us cry. Earned saggy boobs, extra weight and lots of stretch marks. Fun! Yes! I’ll sign up for all that….said no one ever. But it comes with the territory and that is totally ok. What is not ok is surrendering when you don’t want to deep down inside. It’s surrendering to everyone else’s opinions, thoughts and mentalities. It’s surrendering to your lack of motivation and fatigue….
Mama, I’m here to tell you that this is NOT ok. You deserve everything and more. You deserve to work on that “new” you and gain a body you could be proud of. A body you love to look at and go shopping with. Stretch marks, sagging boobs and all.
I’m telling you that wanting to work on yourself IS OK. It’s more than ok. You deserve the support to help get you through the difficult moments of mommyhood so that you can be a better version of you.
I know 1st hand that saying this to you is a lot easier said than done. It’s like climbing a mountain and never reaching the top. Piles of laundry that never seem to want lessen. Or standing in a pool where you can barely reach the bottom with your tippy toes….
I promise you it’s ok. I know you could be feeling totally overwhelmed and not sure how you can possibly fit “you time” into your already hectic day or how you can afford to spend $ on you when you’d feel much better spending the money on other people’s wants. This is when the only thing you should surrender to is the notion that it’s ok to ask for help and then go out and ask for it.
THIS is a big reason behind me training and coaching women right now. I’ve been exactly where you are for far too long. Years and now that I’ve “snapped” out of it and realized how much happier I am and how much more energy I have for my family I have to pay it forward.
Mama, you are beautiful and strong. Let’s get you feeling that way, too. So, let’s redefine that Mom Bod together. Shall, we?